My husbands love language is “words of Affirmation”, which is why I have decided to write our love story on my blog as his virtual birthday card.
I have to say the man I dated is different than the man I married. You cared about so many other women I never thought you would or could just fall in love with me. Sometimes I felt like I was on the T.V. show the Bachelor because you would come pick me up on dates and to my surprise in your car there would be at least three other women- these girls were in there mid 20’s and I was 19, who were joining our date as well. This happened multiple times. It was always these big “group” dates i.e. 3-4 women one Dallin. On the fourth date I was done with it. No matter how elaborate the date was I put an end to it.
I wasn’t going to go to a concert sit on my own blanket and watch you bounce around from blanket to blanket and girl to girl.
After I had a DTR (define the relationship) i.e. I got up and left I had my friend Jessica come and get me. I never thought I would see you again.
I remember I cried over you thinking I would never be good enough for you, and that I would never get a one on one.
Hence why I love watching the Bachelor I seriously can relate in a way.
It took me leaving, not calling, not responding back to text messages for him to wake up.
He later told me the thought of him losing me forever is what woke him up. And made him change his ways and to finally, after 31 years, to go after what he wanted.
After this it was game on. He started spoiling me like CRAZY! It’s actually a little embarrassing. Girls tried to get in the way, there was always a “call me note” with a phone number on his windshield wipers when we would leave restraunts ect. but we soon became unseperable, no matter how many lipstick kissmarkes they left him.
The first time he flew me out to NJ over Christmas I thought he was going to propose to me in the airport. That didn’t happen. When we got to his parents house (it was super late) we made out on the pool table, he gave me some Christmas gifts from both him and his mom, still no ring, we got in our suits and hopped in the deck hot tub, which is right outside his parents room.
There I decided to bring up another DTR -it had been over 6 months since the last one
So I said on a scale from 1 – 10 where do you see our relationship.
3. exclusively dating
4. public Facebook status change “in a relationship” serious
5. talking about the future
6. talking about engagement
7. ring shopping
He said 4! I said 6-7. I almost died of embarrassement. His mom came out to “sweep” at 4 am lol aka check on us.
6 months later, on your birthday, I snuck through the window in your room and we celebrated your birthday in bed. We opened up the presents I got you, I made you a quilt and a scrapbook with a card I made you that said ‘Love Shannon’ on it.
I remember you thanked and kissed me and told me for the first time EVER that you loved me! And I immediately said it back, I had been holding it in for so long.
Fast forward to July. We are back in NJ for three weeks. I had a suspicion with how my mom was acting before I left that maybe you had talked to my parents about marrying me?The three weeks were almost up, I was getting scared that I had made up in my head a possible engagement. On our last night we had together, because the last last night I was going with all the girls in the family to a broadway. I had another DTR with him in his room. I started asking him questions like “how long do you plan on dating me?” and saying things like “wow this is our last night in NJ”. And “what are your plans for the rest of summer?” -hoping he would reply with “planning a wedding”. He just told me to go to bed and we’ll talk in the morning.
I didn’t sleep at all that night, instead I cried, packed my bags for tomorrow pulled myself together found an apartment for the fall and stayed up late registered for all my classes at BYU. I decided if he doesn’t want to marry me by the time school starts again, I was going to force myself to stop waisting my time.
The next morning I was outside on the tennis court and Dallin came outside to play with me. We hit the ball back and forth, we didn’t talk much. Like at all. We both had a lot on our minds. Then over the backyard intercom I heard “everyone get in the car, we are going to the boardwalk” -my favorite place!
The whole way to the boardwalk we didn’t talk much. Still so weird. We were walking on the boardwalk, which I thought would be my last time ever walking on it. I try grabbing Dallins hand to hold as we walk, he rejected and walked quickly in front of me, he then turned around droped to his knee and pulled out a RING!!!!!
I almost drop to the floor! His whole family (like 40 plus people) and everyone on the boardwalk start surrounding us. I didn’t even know he had a RING! I have never spun so fast in my whole life. I kept looking at everyone wondering “how did everyone know about this and didn’t tell me?” And then looking at the ring thinking “when did he get this and pick this out?” And then looking at him with hearts and tears in my eyes thinking “FINALLY!” I have never been happier in my whole life.
Dallin you changed my life from the moment I met you. I love your birthday because it is a reminder of the first time you told me that you loved me. I love you more and more every year. I am so sorry that your mother is not here for you on your birthday to wish you happy birthday, I thank her everyday for giving you a birthday. I don’t know where or who I would be without you two.
I can’t say it enough and I’ll never stop saying it.
I Love You Dallin!