In honor of my Anniversary month and because I did bring this up in my instagram stories, I thought this was a safe and appropriate place to dive deeper into the intimacy ring I brought up.

My wedding date is a week away and I need to go to my premarital appointment. I am in college and on school insurance. So I go to the health clinic on campus.  I ask my sisters advice and she told me to definitely bring both my mom and Dallin. I regret that very much. No I am kidding, but boy it was uncomfortable. I had decided to go with the copper IUD, which ended up being a very bad decision. But I don’t want to get into that on this post* (see below)

After IUD insertion, the Dr. gave Dallin a lecture, in front of me and my mother on how he needs to be gentle with me, he told her He was from NJ and has read cosmo since he was little so not to worry. Which oddly I think made all of us more worried 🙂

I was then given a brown paper sack with lots of clear dilators of different sizes. <Use your imagination, think turkey basters> I was sent home with these with clear instructions on how to use them. Warm bath and work myself up to the biggest before my wedding night.

I was traumatized by all of it. Unbenounced to Dallin, I threw that brown paper sack away. There was no way I was going to do that to myself. I didn’t tell Dallin because I would later use this as ammo/a teaser ie if I didn’t answer my phone right away I’d say I was using them (which I was not just a fun inside joke bc that’s what I do best)

I want to make it very clear that I have nothing bad to say about receiving these tools and I am thankful that women are being thought of. It was just something I was not into. And this is where my research began. I went to Target and found a ring. Something that both my husband and I could do together to get me to feel more comfortable in what could be an uncomfortable situation.  I am so glad that this was the way I went about it. And we had zero complications. Thank heavens. Even works great in water <think turbo jet > Water isn’t my personal favorite or best lubricant but this little device is fun and makes water a whole new experience.

I hope this wasn’t too much. I just would love women to know about it, new moms and young brides especially, and if you are non of these women, its ok neither am I, It’s still fun to try new things.

I think health clinics should recommend a device like this. Dilators were personally too much for me and I think this device is it!

Fast Forward to after childbirth I haven’t had to use in years, but decided I needed to get another ring for my 1st intimate encounter postpartum.  I felt healed and ready physically to engage in intimacy but went with the ring just to take the nerves away and edge off.

I have continued to use after every childbirth, and highly recommend for when you’re ready this device is a great reminder that your body is fun again!

*(long story short my body rejected the copper IUD, cramped so hard, and it fell out 3xs!) do not recommend!